Most people don’t go to counselling as soon as they notice that they are not feeling right. The majority of the population soldier on hoping that their problems will go away by themselves. The truth is that if someone is well practised at self-denial, the problems can appear to go away but there is only so long someone can ignore them before underlying emotional issues can cause harm either physically or mentally to the individual and those around them.
So here are my 7 signs to look out for that might mean you could do with a bit of counselling to help you get back on your feet again.
1. Something in your life has changed big time.
It could be a relationship break up or one that it breaking down. It could be a loss of a loved one or a job. Your location may have changed, a new boss at work, a new baby enters your life or your children leave home. These are just a few big changes that counselling can help you to come to terms with.
2. You’ve been feeling anxious and depressed and you don’t want to feel like that anymore.
Most people who come to counselling are at the end of their tether, they are finally willing to hold up the white flag saying, ‘I can’t do this anymore.’ That’s where the counsellor steps in. They are there to help you move forward through your anxiety and depression towards a more balanced and calm life.
3. You are bad-tempered and snappy.
It takes a lot of energy to keep emotions locked up inside. The thoughts in your head can be negative and incessant and the emotions we lock away in our body can make us tense and rigid. No wonder we can get snappy.
4. You are crying all the time and can’t see a way out.
Problems if not dealt with can appear insurmountable. All you can do is cry. The crying is good if you recognise it as the beginning of being able to face things. When all is bleak, sharing your problems with a trained professional is the beginning of change. Nothing is as bleak; once it has been shared and discussed.
5. Something happened to you a long time ago.
You thought you dealt with it but it is beginning to haunt you. If something happened in your life when you were a child or teenager, chances are you did the only thing you knew how to do at the time; you buried it deep down. As people get older those feelings start to surface so that they can be dealt with. Counsellors are able to help you deal with the past so you can lay it to rest and live more fully in the present moment.
6. You feel resentful, jealous, angry, bitter or sad.
All of the above emotions are negative, they have a reason for being there but they don’t need to be something that you live with. They can be looked at dealt with and replaced with more positive emotions.
7. You have lost your sense of humour and you want to smile again.
Life can get so serious sometimes. The daily drudge can leave us drained and down in the dumps. If you want to smile and have a laugh then counselling can help to deal with the serious issues to make room for a more light-hearted outlook on life.
If any of the above signs ring true for you, get in touch, I'd love to work with you to help you feel better.